As a teenager I find out
that I had PCOS which is polycysticoverians syndrome. Which causes a
numerous things such as diabetes, weight gain, and the worst (I feel)
infertility. Doctors said with fertility medication I could possible have
a child, so there was hope. I decided that I would not try to have a child
until I was ready and was mature enough. I work for a police department
and wanted to move into different parts of the department such as
narcotics. Even If you are not a police officer you know that having a
child and working narcotics is way to much to juggle. I didn't want to take
anytime away from my child. I did my time in narcotics and at the age of
31 I decided now is the time to settle down and have the child I always
wanted. I went to the doctor and I was placed on fertility a drug which
was fem era. The first round of medication did not work and I was
devastated. The doctor advised that I might have to take the shots which
we all know could cause multiples births. We decided to double the pills
and it worked. That was in January 2008. On Valentines Day I found
out I was pregnant no one could be happier on this day. Finally a child
that I have always wanted. I broke the news to the father, which is my
boyfriend of six yrs, and he was a little nervous. We had our first
ultrasound at the 7th week and everything looked find. seeing the
heartbeat was the most unbelievable thing, of course I cried. We were not
due to have another ultrasound until the 19th week. While the doctor was
looking at the baby I could tell something was wrong he kept doing all kinds of
measurements. I shoke it off at first and then he began to ask questions
about the due date which was October 14. I was then told that instead of
measuring at 19 wks I was measuring 17 wks. I was set up with a
specialist for two weeks later. Upon seeing the specialist he advised
that everything looked fine with the baby it was just measuring small and the
due date was prob. off. I kept thinking how could that be we knew when I
was ovulating (Internal Ultrasound). I kept going to the specialist every
two weeks and the baby kept falling behind in growth. I was told something
was wrong with the baby, but they did not know what because, other than growth,
the baby was perfect. I was put through many test and one was the blood
test they do when you do have a miscarriage. We found out that I had a
disease that was causing blood clots in the placenta. I was put on lovenox
shots in my stomach once a day and an aspirin. I also did an amnio to make
sure the baby did not have any chromozone disorders. I didn't want to at
first because if my child had down syndrome I wouldn't love it any less.
Then I was told the test tests for other chromo diseases
that the baby would not survive for long. The doctor didn't want me to
have a baby shower and set up a room if I was not bringing a baby home. I
then advised that I would do it to save the sorrow in the end. Everything
came back fine and I find out I was having a little boy, my heart dropped.
I really didn't care as long as the baby was fine, but my boyfriend has two
girls and no boys. At the 25th wk I went to the specialist and was told
that when the baby was measuring at a weight he would survive, if I had to
deliver, I would be hospitalized, that was on July 8, 2008. All the week
of my 25th week of pregnancy I had terrible pain in my right shoulder and
neck. Pain that caused me not to sleep very well. I would use the
heat patches and get some sleep. I brought it up to the specialist and
they said there is nothing we can do. I shook it off to sleeping wrong or
pulling a muscle. On July 12, 2008 life as I knew it was fixing to
change. The night before I had been having some pain in my stomach and
thought great the baby must be growing. I placed a pillow under my stomach
and went to bed. The next morning my boyfriend had to wake up at 5:30 in
the morning to go to work so I woke up with him. I was still in pain, but
didn't think much of it. After he left I got really sick and went to the
restroom to throw up. It started with me burping and then everything came
up. While throwing up I began to dry heive and after finishing I was in
the worse pain ever. I thought it was from all of the stress from throwing
up. I laid down on a messager and tried to get some sleep. The top
part of my abdomen was throbbing in pain. The pain relieved for a while
and when trying to go lay in my bed the pain started again. I contacted my
mom and we went to the doctor. My urine was checked along with my
pressure. There was a little protein in the urine, but no one was
concerned and my pressure was fine. The doctor said it was prob. a
gallbladder attack and sent me home with nexium. I was told to eat no fat
foods for a day. Of course I took the medication and did not listen to the
doctor and ate McDonald's for breakfast, figuring the medication would
work. I went home and slept for a while when I was woke up with terrible
pain. I contacted the doctor and was told to go to the hospital they would
give me a drip of medication and do some scans. I started not to go
because the first time the pain subsided, but my mom said lets just go and get
checked out. Upon arrival at the hospital I was asked for a urine sample
to which I did. When I looked at the urine it was black the color of
coke. I then began to get scared. I could tell by the nurses faces
it was not good. Before leaving to go to the hospital I took my lovenox
shot at approx. 2pm. The nurse checked my pressure and it was
191/99. My doctor was called and he came to the hospital. I was told
I was being shipped to a hospital that was more capable of handling my
situation. He told me that once there my son would be taken and the
chances of his survival was not good. I begged him to do something, but
there was nothing that could be done. I was then transported to the other
hospital by ambulance. Once there I spoke to the specialist and he told me
that he was going to take my son because if not I would die. At that time
I didn't care about dying I just wanted to keep my child safe. Once they
found out I took a shot of Lovenox my emergency surgery was put off or I would
have bleed to death. It would take 24hrs for the shot to wear off.
The tried to keep me comfortable throughout the night, but nothing seemed to
work. My boyfriend was able to show up and be with me which helped.
They kept coming in and taking blood to check my platelets. I was told that
I was suppose to have 150,000 platelets and my was dropping. The doctor
told me he would hold on as long as he could, but my liver and kidneys were
failing. Basically I was dying and there was nothing I could do to save me
or my child. On July 13 at approx 2pm blood work was done and my platelet
count was 51,000. I begged them to do something, to which nothing could be
done. I asked if I could be awake for the delivery so I could see my son
alive just once and was denied it due to me bleeding to death in my spine.
They were able to give me two shots to strengthen the baby's lungs. One
more round of blood work was done, to which I have no idea what it read, and I
was rushed to surgery. My boyfriend was able to come in after I was put
under. Once I woke up I was placed in ICU to be monitored. I learned
that my son, Aiden Andrew Price, had made it and was stable at the time. I
was unable to go see him because of my condition, but pictures was brought to
me, he was so perfect. He was born at 15:56 and only weighed 11.5
ounces. On July 14th I was able to go see him. I could not tell you
the feeling of seeing my son for the first time. But of course if you are
a mother you completely understand. He was moving around and fighting the
tubes. For approx. a week and a half Aiden did wonderful and then he took
a turn for the worst which we were told was going to happen. They
warned us that it would be a roller coaster ride. Aiden started
coming back and was doing good, but all would change. Aiden started
losing his oxygen levels when he would be fooled with. They would have to
bag him to get him back to the right stats. We were told that was not good
he needed to get back up to the right stats on his own. On July 30th he
started another episode and then his heart rate started dropping. They
gave him medication and was able to stabilize him. We were placed in a
room at the hospital to be close. On July 31 on one of our visits Aiden
started dropping oxygen again. They continued to bag him, but he
would not stabilize and then his heart rate began to drop to the 70's.
They tried the medication again and his heart beat climbed and then
dropped. I was told the words that no mother wants to hear, "There is
nothing else we can do." I was asked if I wanted to hold him to which of
course I did he is my son. I asked them not to pull the tube out until he
was in my arms to which they agreed. Holding him for the first time was so
wonderful. I was allowed to hold him for approx a min and then the tube
was pulled and my precious angel went to heaven. The weeks I spent
with Aiden was the happiness days of my life. I was able to see him open
his eyes and move around. He was sedated several times and paralyzed, but
he was still with me. The time I got to spend with Aiden was precious and
he was truly a unique baby. Every child knows his mothers voices and
Aiden was no different. When I would speak to him he would
fight to move and suck on his tube. After his death I was able to
bath him and dress him. I was able to hold him and spend as much time with
him that I wanted too. I did not want to let him go he was just so
perfect. Several days before his death Aiden was very swollen and I knew
he was suffering. Aiden no longer suffers and for that I am thankful, but
it doesn't take the pain away. I know many of you mothers that has lost
their child thinks about suicide, I have on several occasions, but the only
thing that keeps me going is to know if I do end my life I will never see my
precious Aiden again. I am currently seeking help to get me through this
time of sorrow and I hope it works only time will tell. I know this story is
long, but I hope it helps another mother that is going through the same thing to
know you are not alone. The pain you are feeling every mother that has lost
a child, that has loved it, feels the same way. May God Bless all of you
and keep you safe.
